The Self-Care Journey:
Master Self-Care ~ Master Your Life
My goal is to support and guide you on your journey to master your self-care and master your life. I do this by mentoring your self-exploration and spiritual connection process to help you develop and deepen your self-care practices.
Definition of Self-Care
A deep and thorough understanding of who you are – mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually – and what you need to take care of yourself in all those ways. This includes getting to know the subconscious places that often go unexplored and determines many of our reactions to experiences in our life. True self-care takes the ability to be completely honest with yourself, about all parts of yourself, to determine and ask for what you need to thrive.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ~Aristotle
Definition of Joyful
A feeling of deep happiness and peace that comes from a gratitude for exactly where you are in life. It’s not about having everything you want or perfection. It’s about truly appreciating what you have and cultivating the ability to find that appreciation even when the situation itself is not to your liking. It’s being able to handle the hard times and unpleasant things in life from a sturdy, centered place and with trust that you will come out ok on the other side.
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today,
and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
"The Path" New Mexico (c) Jen Bonnett
Sustaining self-care and joyful living means your subconscious mind and inner world resonate at the same level as your conscious mind and outer world. In other words - AUTHENTICITY!
Below is the explanation of the Self-Care Journey based on my experience. This might give you an idea about where you are on your own path and what type of support would be appropriate for you.
Beginning Your Journey (or the 'senior year of high school into the freshman year of college' phase)
You start to feel restless to step into something bigger than the world you’ve known, but you have no idea what that looks like. Once you get into college, that first year is overwhelming and confusing because everything is new and you don’t know where to focus your attention. This is the feeling that seems to accompany the beginning of the Self-Care Journey. You feel restless, you know there is something missing, but you don’t know what it is or how to find it. The best thing you can do in this phase is explore. Read books, participate in workshops, watch videos, take classes, or anything else that sparks your interest and attention. Explore what resonates with you, find where your interests lie, and determine what seems to help you.
Deepening Your Journey (or the 'sophomore to senior years of college' phase)
There is a real feeling of passionate curiosity to this phase. You have gotten used to college, are sure that this is where you’re supposed to be, and you eventually declare a major to study. This portion of the Self-Care Journey is like going to school and majoring in yourself. You are learning about new topics that you have never considered or focused on before. You are stepping into new experiences that help you learn more about yourself. This is the phase where you have committed to the Self-Care Journey and start digging into the fears and subconscious beliefs that limit your self-care. You are more curious than scared at the idea of finally facing what is in your way and you start to see and feel changes happening within and around you. The best thing you can do during this phase is to find ways to deepen the work you are doing with yourself. Consider training in areas that interest you or in-depth healing sessions with experienced practitioners.
Mastering Your Journey (or the 'graduation and stepping into the world' phase)
The feeling in this phase is nervous excitement. Although there have likely been some external changes, much of your journey up to this point has had to do with internal discoveries and changes. Now you are feeling called to take this new version of yourself and introduce it to the world. This often manifests in new relationships, new jobs, or passion projects. It’s the point where you are ready to move through your life in a different way. It is at this point where we are often tested with old fears and limitations to see if we are willing to overcome them to step out in the world in an empowered way. Even though we may be enervated with new energy, our old life and patterns are still knocking on the door, trying to pull us back. The best thing you can do during this phase is to remain open and keep using the tools you have learned that help you. Keep moving forward, even when old fears rise up to haunt you. Look for communities of people that are moving through similar experiences that can support and encourage you. Stay strong!
Maintaining Your Journey
Life moves in cycles. Where we start is also where we end and begin again, albeit in a wiser and more expanded space. Even once you have mastered your self-care, we can all benefit from revisiting experiences and activities that have helped us heal. You may find that they still help you, but on a more expanded level. You might also find yourself drawn to teach or work with others as a way to maintain your own journey.
How Long Does It Take?
A lifetime. The process of self-discovery, and certainly self-care, should last for our entire physical lives.
Who Can Benefit?
Everyone! I mean that in the most literal sense. Society is made up of individuals. The more of us that do our own individual work and present the best version of our self to the world, the more everyone benefits.
More specifically, any person who feels:
life can be more than it is but without clarity of what more looks like or how to get there
You don’t have to be traumatized or in a bad place to want to live a more joyful life. If you feel something is missing in your life and want to explore what that is, you can benefit. Of course, I find it’s at the times in our lives that we feel traumatized or broken that we are most willing to seek help to get out of those places.
The caveat, no matter what state you’re in, is that you must be willing to put in the work to benefit from the process. You must be willing to look deeper than the desire to instantly solve a situation or relationship. Uncomfortable situations in our lives are symptoms. Trying to fix a situation without looking at why that situation has arisen, is like treating the symptom of a disease without trying to treat the disease. I’m talking about shifting root causes of imbalance in your life, which will naturally lead to clarity about how to alleviate uncomfortable or unwanted situations and relationships.
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"Morning's Glory" West Baldwin, Maine (c) Jen Bonnett
"Joy!" Coastal Maine Botanical Gardens, Boothbay, Maine (c) Jen Bonnett
How I Guide Your Journey
Self-exploration is a personal, individual process. I have created offerings to support your journey in a way that allows for deep self-exploration and connection with your own energy and with Spirit. I utilize the following tools, practices and techniques to provide these offerings:
Universal Energy - I connect into higher vibration Universal Energy to create tools and resources, assess your energetic needs, and facilitate healing. I am certified in Levels 1 & 2 in the traditional Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki lineage and in Master Practitioner and Master Teacher in the Shamanic Reiki lineage. Both help guide my work with energy. See below for more information on these practices.
Nature-Based Practices – Nature is one of our greatest teachers if we extend our awareness. Connecting with nature can be an easy way to open to Spirit, meditate for relaxation, adjust your own energy with the help of natural elements, and receive clarity through signs from nature beings.
Card Readings – Tarot and Oracle cards are wonderful tools for self-insight and self-reflection, especially when used consistently. They serve as an external, visual way for you to explore your internal world and connect with Spirit.
Embodied & Experiential Practices – Reconnecting with our bodies is a vital component of understanding ourselves better. Body pain and issues can help us understand and process our mental, emotional and spiritual selves. Body connection practices can also aid in meditation, mindfulness and connection with Spirit. Experiential practices are a way for your to explore energy and yourself on a deeper level. Examples of these practices: breathwork, gentle movement, visualization journeys, writing and creative exercises, and ceremonies.
Focused Intuitive Insight - I am by nature analytical and a problem-solver and I have cultivated these skills in other areas of work. In conjunction with the energetic information I receive, these qualities allow me to help you determine what is getting in your way, how to move it, and what to put in its place. I see potential in every person and situation - let's make it a reality!
Resource Development – I create a variety of resources and tools designed to assist in the exploration of energy and self-care concepts. Examples of these resources include: fables, meditations, card spreads, practices. Visit the Self-Care Resources and Self-Care Community 2020 pages to learn more.
Personal Study – Connecting with topics that interest you and support self-exploration and connection with Spirit is vital to the process. I will recommend information that might be beneficial to you. Topics that might be helpful for you to explore: energy work, Shamanism, dreamwork, past life regression, mind-body connection, psychology, Tarot/Oracle cards, nutrition, artistic expression, physical movement practices, and astrology.
ARE YOU READY TO MASTER YOUR LIFE?
I do not limit my work by gender, race, orientations, etc.
If you think I can help, let's talk!
A Little More About Reiki & Shamanic Reiki
Reiki (pronounced ray-key) is spiritually guided life force energy. It is used to naturally balance a person's energy by resting the hands gently on or just above the body, while the energy flows through the practitioner. Reiki produces a relaxing experience that can reduce stress and puts the individual in an ideal state for deep healing. The Reiki practitioner does not direct the energy to specific problems, simply allows the energy to work through them to affect the greatest and highest good of the individual receiving treatment. Healing can be affected on the physical, mental, emotional or spiritual levels.
Shamanic Reiki combines Reiki energy and the earth-honoring and nature-based practices of Shamanism, to balance a person's energies and affect healing. Shamanism is a very, very old spiritual practice that has been and continues to be used by various cultures throughout the world. Shamans have a strong relationship to nature and call upon natural elements such as the winds, plants, smoke, rocks, animals, fire, and water for healing. They call in helping spirits/guides, remove or transform harmful intrusions, and balance energies through the vibration of drums, bells, rattles, movement, chanting and other methods. Shamans also travel to the spirit world and alternate realities to retrieve information or alter energies. Shamanic Reiki is a powerful practice and can be very beneficial on a path of healing and self-discovery. To read about how using Shamanic Reiki helped me, please see my blog post "The Burning Tree."